Happy Thanksgiving Santini-Self Development Enterprises

The Thanksgiving Holiday weekend is here.I want to take brief moment to say Thank You for being part of me and Santini Self Development Enterprises. Because of your Love in my work, I have been able to begin to have an impact on so many people around the world.

 I also know that this is just the beginning of my reach and impact, and I look forward to serving you as we continue on to change the world one mind at a time.

 Whether you are a blog subscriber who reads only a small percentage of my blog posts and take small bits away that you can use, or whether you've gone deeper into my work and we've participated together on any of my live seminar trainings I want you to know how much I appreciate our relationship at whatever level it is.

It is my hope to continue to build that relationship and to serve you and continue to be your solutions provider for you on a personal level or organizational level.

Thanks for being on this ride with me and best wishes for a Happy "Thanksgiving Holiday. 

Thanksgiving and Reality-SSDE Luciano Santini

Hello my friends and here we are on  another beautiful Saturday morning. You know I was thinking what can you be thankful on this Thanksgiving week. Well for me there are many things such as thanking every single one of you who cares to read my blogging that I am sure at times does not make sense ha ha ha. I am sure. All joking set aside really think about what you are thankful for in your life. It could be your kids or your job or your husband/wife/girlfriend/lover whoever it may be.

"Smile when you are in front of a challenge and tell yourself I can do this"-Luciano Santini

In life there will always be challenges and obstacles before us however the question becomes; How do we deal with them? Leaders have ways of doing this. But first lets ask a question.Can we change? I like this quote:

"The curious paradox is that when
         I accept myself just as I am, then
         I can change. The good life is a
         process, not a state of being."
                    Carl Rogers

I think that sometimes we are so afraid to make the changes that in in fact know we need to make so we can reach our goals and dreams but we are so afraid of change !! Why is that?

We can struggle with it every day but at the end guess what the truth will be staring at you again so why not just face it and deal with it now!

"Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth." - Marcus Aurelius

I love this saying which is well so true:

Baltasar Gracian, the insightful and pragmatic 17th century Jesuit priest, cautioned, "Truth is abhorred by the masses." Instead, they try to make true that which they love -- a self-delusive practice that virtually guarantees frustration and failure. 

When an individual is able to recognize the truth about life that individual will be able to be part of an elite group of people that does not chase lucid dreams but understands reality. I believe that when we do not face the truth we live in fantasies that perhaps we conjure up in our minds which in turn will create a false reality thus we will live in a fantasy world causing issues in dealing with real problems in our daily life.

 What about the consequences that come by lying to ourselves because we choose to live in fantasy land. My friends please understand though a consequence does not arrive immediately you will not be prepared when it does arrive so be conscientious of what you do whether bad or good there will always be a consequence.

 Remember for every action there will be a reaction sometime. The issue is that when we do something and believe it to be right when in fact it is the wrong thing to do the consequence will eventually arrive and sometimes it may take a while but when it does finally arrive you will not be prepared because it has been a while and then you get confused and start to ask yourself many questions such as:

Why me?

I do not deserve this? blah blah!!!!

I love reality and I try to live in a real world but yes I do slip into fantasies and I have to tell you that I have paid my dues for doing so and they have been costly whether in relationships or business or friendships been there.

Most people create the world they live in from a perspective of what the world is in their minds eye and not the way the real world is and here is where the problem is my friends. Live in a world that is real and not a fantasy because this will help you live a more balanced life.

We create these stories in our heads and we start to believe them to be true and yet they are nothing more than a fantasy but in our minds they are real and then we start to believe them to be true and this is where we rarely catch ourselves until it is to late and we are facing the consequences.

Silence is never Good when it comes to important issues-Luciano The Key Santini

Good morning to all my friends and readers. I want to thank you for making this blog such a success. Thank you thank you so very much. In this post I want to talk about a serious issue that affects every single one of us whether we have children or not; But first this:

 

 Faith

Faith is the element, the “chemical” which, when mixed with prayer, gives one direct communication with Infinite Intelligence. 

Today I would like to talk about why is it that politicians both at a local level and a worldwide level do not understand the meaning of what  children mean to us. I really would like to talk about this and bring some light into it. Everyone states and say in conversations and I have heard it it so many times that there is no longer any meaning behind . 

The phrase being ( The children are our future) To me it seems that this has become more of a Cliche to many and have forgotten that they were children at one time and some one if they are successful protected them making sure they had a safe environment when they played.

 I believe we all need to come together to make sure that we as parent are making a difference in our children's lives and come together to make sure that police chiefs and any one that operates a city a nation and a home puts all of their difference aside and create an environment where children can feel they can play safely without wondering if a drug dealer or a murder is going to walk up to them and asking them to sell drugs or go out and kill someone!!!

 In the 1960s Frankie Valli and Four Seasons had a hit song titled,

“Silence Is Golden.”

The song is about a relationship where a friend knows a woman is being betrayed by her significant other. 

The advice offered to this friend in the song is to keep quiet because the woman won’t believe what she is being told.

Silence about important issues is never a good thing, one needs to be able to communicate with an open mind in order to have other listen.

Dramatic I know but at the same time take a look around your town and ask yourself (Are we doing what we should be doing for our children?)  

I can go on the radio and I did for a while making sure that not only my children were safe but all he children in what ever community I was living at the time. I have to say did I make a difference well yes I did and I have in many areas from Los Angeles California to the Santa Barbara County but the question becomes am I bale to do it alone and the answer is absolutely not!!!

 I see my children growing and there are always challenges in school in our communities we ll understand these things and many more struggles that individuals never ever talk about I understand but these are your children. 

I can only speak for myself and well I love mine and well i can only push and lead a number of people who wish to do the same for their children but countries-cities and communities need to come together and believe and I mean really believe that the safety of our children is paramount for the future of this world.

We need leaders real leaders that can think outside the box to bring a safety environment to the world. Leadership is all bout believing that you can can help people grow and achieve potential.  True leaders will always continue to grow or find ways to expand their own minds to reaching their potential or that of others if they stop  growing themselves then they stop recognizing the potential for our young adults and children's needs.

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Thank you and have a wonderful day!! 

We may fall short in our quest for our dreams but only when we leave them behind is when we will loose them.

 Good morning my friends and to all my readers and clients. Here we are on a beautiful Saturday and looking forward to the festivities that are coming during this month. I am trying to figure out what I am going to do this year for my birthday  which is coming up on December 25. I cannot believe I will be one more younger (LOL) Yes I am laughing out loud because I know you believe me yea right!!!

He holds the key to managing their mind and control their emotions can make some great changes for the future. The problem of course is if you do not have control over your emotions then what and how do you do it. Well friends good news because I am going to share some ideas. What do you thing about sitting down and making some changes to your mind during times when you are looking at some tough choices. 

What I mean is that it seems when we face some difficult times is when we seem to make the choices that we need to make because other times just seemed normal situations and guess what you are correct.

 We may fall short in our quest for our dreams but only when we leave them behind is when we will loose them-- Luciano The Key Santini

Here you will hear me speak about keeping your mind sharp and ready for changes. My friends tough times are coming for many this year and we need to be prepared simply to survive the chaos of life much less the issues that with a simple life.  we must hold on to our dreams.

I have a great question for all of you: Why is it that people get so upset when change comes our way why why why seems to be the big question. In life we as people feel that we should know what is happening tomorrow and yet we have no idea no matter we may predict it. I believe that we are wired this way because we are habit forming and we form our own habits may they be good or bad but usually bad. It is here where we let our emotions take over and allow them to run our lives. How do we act to change? here is an article from one of my mentors;

 

Emotions are sometimes strange, volatile, and unpredictable. They do not always respond to logic and reason. They do, however, respond to action. If you have occasional feelings of loneliness, discouragement, or discontentment, the best way to kill such negative emotions is to work them to death. Almost nothing is as bad as it first seems, and there’s nothing like a hard day’s work to put everything in proper perspective. When you begin to feel negative emotions, dwelling on your misfortunes only makes you feel worse. 

Do your best to put them out of your mind and think about more positive, constructive things. Physical labor can help. Choose a task that doesn’t require a great deal of concentration, and then focus on accomplishing the task at hand.

"I am here for a purpose and that purpose is to grow into a mountain, not to shrink to a grain of sand. Henceforth, will I apply ALL my efforts to become the highest mountain of all and I will strain my potential until it cries for mercy." - 

Og Mandino

What Is Leaderhip VS. Management--Luciano The Key Santini SSDE

Well hello my friends and here we are again with the exception that it is Sunday and not Saturday but I can explain. You see yesterday I had to drive for four hour to do a seminar on leadership in Los Angeles and well I had to leave pretty early but it was great. I spoke about leaders and what it takes to be a great leader.

A leader doesn't always need to be around. A leader doesn't need to micro-manage. A leader's role is much bigger, and their behavior should shape almost everything you do, even in their absence.  A good leader is of few words, but ones that matter. 

 "A genuine leader is not a searcher for consensus but a molder of consensus." - Martin Luther King, Jr. 

At this seminar I was asked how would I manage people  if i was not in the office or site where I was to be managing them but was out sick. I explained that during these times your staff should know by now what your expectation are and what you expect from them whether you are there or not there.

You see people know when they are doing their job and when they are not. They may pretend not to know what they are doing or act as if they are confused regarding a procedure or a policy but the truth is that you must not be to consistent on what their expectations are and this is when staff runs a muck. here are some ideas that I studied in the past that taught me some great lessons on both management and leadership and what it means and how to implement the techniques.

 Leaders carry out this process by applying their leadership knowledge and skills. This is called Process Leadership (Jago, 1982). However, we know that we have traits that can influence our actions. This is called Trait Leadership (Jago, 1982), in that it was once common to believe that leaders were born rather than made. These two leadership types are shown in the chart below (Northouse, 2007, p5):

 

Management verses Leadership

While management and leadership have a great deal in common, such as working with people and accomplishing the goals of the organization, they do differ in their primary functions (Kotter, 1990):

• Management's main function is to produce order and consistency through such processes as planning, budgeting, organizing, staffing, and problem solving.
•  
• While leadership's main function is to produce movement and constructive or adaptive change through such processes as establishing direction through visioning, aligning people, motivating, and inspiring.

 
Leader

 You must have an awareness of who you are and what you can do. You must also be honest to yourself. You must also know that you must have a consistency on how you manage all your staff because they will be the ones to decide whether you are a good leader or a great leader. 

If your staff does not have a trust in you as a leader the  they will not follow you or worst yet you will not be able to motivate them no matter what you do. One must have great communication skills because when one needs his or her staff to follow them or to get them to make a change one must be able to communicate exactly what one expects.

 No one would talk much in society if they knew how often they misunderstood others. — Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

Communicating with others involves three primary steps:

• Thought: First, information exists in the mind of the sender. This can be a concept, idea, information, or feelings.
• Encoding: Next, a message is sent to a receiver in words or other symbols.
• Decoding: Lastly, the receiver translates the words or symbols into a concept or information that he or she can understand. 

Communication is when there is a good flow of of information exchange from one person or persons to another or to others. To be an effective communicator one must make sure there is clarity and specificity. Many of the problems that occur in an organization are such as:

• Because people do not know how to communicate instead they choose to pretend to understand. 
• Changes sometimes are not explained correctly and people end up confused and frustrated.

When Communication Fails Us-Luciano "The Key" Santini

Good morning my friends and how are we doing on this beautiful Saturday morning perhaps Sunday somewhere else or close to being Sunday. Today I am going to talk about communication and what it means to a corporation  when communication fails between staff and management or for that matter between CEO"S.

Let me start with some motivation clips of myself speaking to all people and trying to change the world to a better place one mind at a time;

Before I go on let me share some wisdom with you from a great teacher and mentor.Please enjoy.

A bull may have good qualities, but you will never bring them out by waving a red flag in his face.

Arousing others is easy — if you don’t care what kind of action you inspire. If you wish to create a positive response in others, you do so by example and through the art of gentle persuasion, not by daring them to attack. When you work with others, concentrate on their positive attributes, not on the things they dislike or fear.

 When you take the time to get to know your associates, to learn about their hopes, dreams, and aspirations, you can determine what motivates them. You can then show them how they can align their goals with yours to work together for your mutual advantage. When you do, everybody wins. 

 Communication is essential to any business to both clients and staff members

Luciano Santini

When communication fails or lack of it in the workplace can occur in any size company large or small between management and employees, or what about between individual employees. When people fail to communicate effectively then it often will move to some irrational thinking or conflict. Poor communication will most likely cause some type of failure with any organization and can lead to some serious changes.

When management does not communicate properly new policies or procedures rumors can go out which in turn can create a hostile environment. If management fails to communicate any type of change correctly morale will be affected. The worst that can happen is the employees will begin to go into quiet mode or silence and say or do nothing like completing their tasks or projects.

One of the biggest issues in companies large or small is that sometimes if not all the time is poor training. I have found that when change occurs proper training was never put into action correctly. Inadequate training can result in the worker having difficulty in adapting to your work environment as well as mistakes while performing a task due to miscommunication. 

Communication issues can and will cause profit loss and morale loss which in turn will cause management headaches galore.

DISRUPTION WHAT IS IT!!--Santini-Self Development Enterprises

Hello and good day to all my friends and follower who read my blog posts. I truly appreciate all of your feedback because it makes me a better writer and am able to bring important issues to light as I am going today. Today I am going to talk to you about disruption.

What is disruption? Well it is a disturbing word to begin with but also a life changing word depending on how you look at a situation;

tr.v.dis·rupt·ed, dis·rupt·ing, dis·rupts

1. To throw into confusion or disorder: Protesters disrupted the candidate's speech.

2. To interrupt or impede the progress, movement, or procedure of: Our efforts in the garden were disrupted by an early frost.

3. To break or burst; rupture.

Imagine you are in what you might think to be in the perfect business or the perfect job or the perfect situation and suddenly your boss throws a wrench into your perfect situation that is a disruption in your life,because now you have to make adjustments in your life and you have to make new adaptations to your daily routines and if you have a family they have to make the adaptations and the changes as well.

Read again the above because the other truth of the matter is that your boss will probably not care about the changes you have to make and guess what that is just the way it is.

 This type of behavior is called changing someone life because you as the boss can make it so simply because you are in a position of power and there is some hidden benefit for them whatever that might be.

Let elaborate a bit more on this subject;

 Managers regularly acquire and use power. They do so deliberately and consciously as well as intuitively and unconsciously. Power-oriented behavior has an impact on managerial career progress, on job performance, on organizational effectiveness, and on the personal lives of employees. It involves the combined topics of power, influence, authority, and organizational politics. By John P. Kotter. AMACOM, 1979

What I have in bold is very important too understand because it really does impact people lives and though most manager do see it or they choose to look the other way and ignore it.

Let us say that you are this type of manager and you have a great relationship with another manager but you are at a higher level of manager and you make a change; The questions to ask are; 

How will this impact me personally and they way I run my organization?

How will this impact our staff? 

How will this hurt the relationship?

How will this change the persons life and his/her family?

When someone makes those type of choices for someone else and in all truth they can talk and gripe but will not be able to change it. You see you also have a choice and that choice is either make the change and adapt or move on, but if you love to do what you do then adapt and make the needed changes for you and your family.

In a business environment it is the same thing one cannot control the changes in the economy or who moves into our neighborhood meaning new businesses and so what do you do well the same thing adapt and make the needed changes that need to be made so that you can survive that simple.

These are called disruptions and so we as individuals must make the needed changes to be able to survive and in business you have to do the same thing make the changes and adaptations whether it means to hire someone with a new skill that you may need to make your customer service better then you do it.

"To Do The Right Thing Takes A Special Person To Do What Others Tell You To Do Is Easy Simply Because You Can Blame Them If It Does Not Work"--Luciano Santini

To throw into confusion or disorder:  (Example)Protesters disrupted the candidate's speech. I like that to throw into confusion or disorder well this goes on and on all the time. Make the changes and adapt and it will pass my friends in both business and in your daily life.

 There is something about truth that makes it easily recognizable by all who are searching for it with open minds.

Cookie mogul Wally Amos is fond of quoting the saying, “The mind is like a parachute. It functions best when opened.” When you open your mind to the possibilities, objectively analyze information, and refuse to allow your personal preferences and biases to influence your judgment, you will be able to perceive great truths that have been overlooked by others. A closed mind, though, will cause you to miss out on some of life’s greatest offerings. If you find yourself disputing the facts, or if you keep attempting to revise them to support your beliefs, ask yourself, “Why am I so unwilling to accept this information? Am I being logical, or am I simply allowing my emotions to cloud my judgment?” The worst mistake you may ever make is trying to persuade yourself to accept a false truth. It is inappropriate to try to fool others, but when you fool yourself, disaster is sure to follow.