Hello my friends and how the hell is everyone going into the Holidays?
My favorite part of this year start December19th because Hanukka begins. I love this part here and of course what follows is Christmas which I also love very much and give thanks for anther year. The next questions I have is what is gaslighting at work? Well I have personally experienced this in the past. it is not fun!!!! A positive work environment should encourage employees to ask questions about what they are supposed to do. If your boss tells you to file papers one way on Monday but then tells you that we should file differently them the next day, it is natural to ask for clarity.
When your boss is gaslighting you, he or she will lash out instead of providing the clarity you are seeking. Gaslighting bosses often feel threatened when you ask questions and retaliate if you challenge what they say.
They might accuse you of overreacting or not listening in the first place. When your company has gone through changes, it is normal to have some confusion about your role during the adjustment phase.
However, if you have held your job for years and you still find yourself unable to define your responsibilities, you might have a gaslighting boss.
Your boss might tell you that you should know what your responsibilities are instead of answering your question. He or she may also mock you and act as if your question is ridiculous.
It is important to know that in a healthy work environment, you should always be able to ask for clarity concerning your
responsibilities, and in the best kind of environment, you will know exactly what they are. It starts with you apologizing for not responding quickly enough to an email. Then, you find yourself apologizing for taking a five-minute bathroom break. Soon enough, you start apologizing for your boss’ mistakes or those of your coworkers. No matter what task you are working on, your boss always finds something wrong with it. Whether it’s the wording of your email or your ideas at a team meeting, they constantly meet you with criticism.
That is such a demoralizing tactic, and you can end up feeling worthless and demoralized.
Your seemingly charming boss is actually a gaslighting expert. Many bosses appear cheerful all the time but are so good at manipulating their staff. (Opex)
These are just some things that happen when you have an incompetent person in a leadership role or the way they are trained. #leadership #email #job #incompententbosses #drlucianosantini #bestleadershiptrainer #evanstyleleadership #evanstyle #lucianosantini #comonsenseconsulting #gaslighting
