As Victor Hugo said, “An invasion of armies can be resisted, but not an idea whose time has come.

Good morning everyone and thank you for reading my postings and thank you for your continued support on my life long journey to keep on trying to change the minds of people with a new perspective on where the world really is as opposed to what we wanted to be. Please understand that of course the world can be what we wanted to be in our minds simply because we have immediate control of that where we live and where we are employed.

If we do not like where we live then we can move and yes many will say;Well it is not that easy because we will need money and this and that to be able to move and though that might be true at that moment we still have the power to move immediately it is simply a choice. I did a little experiment on Friday evening at the mall.

The experiment went like this. I walked around the mall for a bout 30 minutes and watched people as I walked around and noticed that most people as they passed me by kept their heads down and wondered why. I smiled at everyone and I was dressed professionally so to me there was no reason for people not to say hello or something anything!

I then did the second part: I walked around the same area but this time I actually said hello to people and some responded and some did not they just looked at me a like I was crazy. I would laugh to myself because people are afraid of making any type of attempt to say hello. 

Control your own mind, and you may never be controlled by the mind of another.

The mind is the most powerful weapon known to man. It simply cannot be controlled or contained by an outside force, however formidable that force may at first appear. Throughout history, tyrants have tried to control those who opposed them, but eventually these rulers discovered the power of the imagination was far greater than the threat of the sword. As Victor Hugo said, “An invasion of armies can be resisted, but not an idea whose time has come.

How does this experiment fit into business

Well let us see and understand why this fits into any business. We all know that any business needs and thrives on customer service correct. I also realized and perhaps we all know this or perhaps we do not. People are paid when employed to do a or perform a job so when they get paid they do it and only when they get paid in most companies this is how it is done. The strange thing is that when you do such experiments you find who like to talk to people and those that do not unless they get something in return.

I find this a strange thing because you start to wonder about who you are as a person. Here is where you as an individual will start to question who you are as a man or a woman and this is where you will  realize what this world is like and the truth is that this world is so disconnected from human interaction that it is no wonder why we have the dysfunctions in organizations where no one want to work together.

I can tell from from experiments and research that you can teach anyone to talk to people if you pay them even if they are afraid to talk to people in general. People will talk if you pay them or reward them. I also find to be fascinating that people in general are good people the problem is that we have become disengaged thus the issues in organizations. I do these people experiments because it is a way to develop oneself it is a way to find out who you are as individual.

If you go to a restaurant where there is a children's playground and if you have children try this. Take your children and let them play for a few minutes and before you know they will start playing with other kids that they have never ever met. Why is that? I think the children have the answer to what most organizations have been searching for and have been paying millions of dollars to consultants to help them create teamwork and synergy among their employees. 

I always talk about changing the world and yet we still have such a long way to go but only because we as humans or grown up human beings have lost our childlike fun times. There are many books out there on this subject and yet we still do not get it. People are so disengaged in this world that we have wars all over simply because we do not talk,because we do say hello to one another.

Why is it when you go to see a move that is sad we cry? Really it is a movie we have no connection to the actors. Why is it when we hear a song that touches our hearts while we are driving we cry or smile and yet we have no connection the person singing the song? It is simple my humanoids. 

It is because whether we like it or not we are all connected and if we simply talked to each other we would find that perhaps we are different in one o\way or another perhaps we do not understand each other via language barrier but guess what our commonality is that we are human and we all have a mother and a father and someone loves us so why would we want to take that part away from each other? 

"Red Flags Everywhere And Knowledge Is Coming From Every Angle"

Good morning to all my friends who continue to stay with me on this long journey on changing the world one mind at a time by seeing the world for what it really is as opposed to what we see. This is a blog post on a more serious point today.

People always ask me regarding their present jobs and how they cannot stand their bosses or their environment and this is what i say to them each time.

My friends the job that you currently have will never be bigger then what you make it to be. I tell people how their imagination will always play a big part of the world in their minds and in their perspective. A man by the name of  Daniel Burnham, the turn-of-the-century architect and civic planner whose plan for the 1893 Chicago World’s Fair had an enormous influence on contemporary civic design, was quoted as saying, “Make no little plans.” He knew that to achieve great things we must have grand ideas. If you can imagine it, you can create it. And if you can create in your imagination the job that you would like to have, it is possible to create it in the real world. My journey has been created and now it is becoming a reality.

Inspiring Incarcerated Youth

Leaders ask me many questions as well one of which is: How do we manage people today with all this technology and currently I am working on a model that I call MI (Mental Investment Model ©)

 which will teach techniques not to manage people but to manage knowledge and behaviors at the same time and to learn to connect them meaning behaviors and knowledge with the right tasks making managing staff much easier. This takes time and the right personnel to teach these techniques to management. 

I promise there will be much resistance not only with staff but management because it is actually hard work, however once implemented it will make each manager wonder why this was not implemented a long time ago HAHAHAHAHAHA it had to be the right time and on top of that companies have to be prepared for this revolutionary change that will be taking place actually!! it has started already we just do not know how to manage it thus we do not see it or we just have ignored it.

Inspiring Teachers, Mothers and Fathers

 The world will need stronger mental attitudes meaning people will need to be stronger mentally and prepare for those who will be resisting change and then implement certain techniques so the change is smooth all the way to the top until implementation is accomplished.

I know there will be all the naysayers regrading my model and there will be those who will ask for proof and this and that and well honesty I will not care what they say only because I know human behavior and I have a clear understanding on business needs from start ups to large corporations. The most important thing that I know and understand is that I am a human being just like you and I know how to treat people just like me who is everyone around me and around you.

A bull may have good qualities, but you will never bring them out by waving a red flag in his face.

Arousing others is easy — if you don’t care what kind of action you inspire. If you wish to create a positive response in others, you do so by example and through the art of gentle persuasion, not by daring them to attack. When you work with others, concentrate on their positive attributes, not on the things they dislike or fear. When you take the time to get to know your associates, to learn about their hopes, dreams, and aspirations, you can determine what motivates them. You can then show them how they can align their goals with yours to work together for your mutual advantage. When you do, everybody wins.

Business And The Day of Love Much Money Will Be Spent Today

  

I was asked: Why was it that I never used big words in my writing? The answer was because I want people to know that I am real and to also be able to understand that I live in the real world. The question was great but the answer was better !!! 

Good morning or afternoon depending on where you may be when you read my blog. I believe you can be anywhere at anytime and take the time to sit down enjoy a hot cup of coffee or tea and enjoy a good read.

by Daniel Wesley

 

Tis year, Americans will spend an estimated $17.6 billion on Valentine’s Day—that is the second highest grossing holiday, coming second only to Christmas, and ahead of Mother’s Day, Halloween, and Easter. So just whose wallet is at the mercy of Cupid’s arrow, and what are they buying? Read on to find out.

You might be surprised to discover that while overall consumer spending is down, Valentine’s Day-related spending is on the rise. For example, in 2001, the average American spent $82.60 on the lover’s holiday. In 2008, at the start of the economic decline, the average spending was $122.98. This year, those celebrating will spend a whopping $126.03.

Today is  what everyone calls the day of love, but where did that come from. Today it should come from the heart. I was thinking about this late last night and well I began to think about my kids and I know it is about the significant other and well it should be but what about those that love you no matter what.

I believe that kids need to know just how much they are truly loved. I know we tell them every day but today they should also know how special they are.

Do not get me wrong I will tell my beautiful wife just how much she is loved because if I do not well I might end up on the couch tonight hahahahahahahahahah!!!

So where did this come from this Valentines day celebration?

Valentine’s Day: A Day of Romance 

By History.com

Lupercalia survived the initial rise of Christianity and but was outlawed—as it was deemed “un-Christian”–at the end of the 5th century, when Pope Gelasius declared February 14 St. Valentine’s Day. It was not until much later, however, that the day became definitively associated with love. During the Middle Ages, it was commonly believed in France and England that February 14 was the beginning of birds’ mating season, which added to the idea that the middle of Valentine’s Day should be a day for romance.

Valentine greetings were popular as far back as the Middle Ages, though written Valentine’s didn’t begin to appear until after 1400. The oldest known valentine still in existence today was a poem written in 1415 by Charles, Duke of Orleans, to his wife while he was imprisoned in the Tower of London following his capture at the Battle of Agincourt. (The greeting is now part of the manuscript collection of the British Library in London, England.) Several years later, it is believed that King Henry V hired a writer named John Lydgate to compose a valentine note to Catherine of Valois.

Typical Valentine’s Day Greetings

In addition to the United States, Valentine’s Day is celebrated in Canada, Mexico, the United Kingdom, France and Australia. In Great Britain, Valentine’s Day began to be popularly celebrated around the 17th century. By the middle of the 18th, it was common for friends and lovers of all social classes to exchange small tokens of affection or handwritten notes, and by 1900 printed cards began to replace written letters due to improvements in printing technology. Ready-made cards were an easy way for people to express their emotions in a time when direct expression of one’s feelings was discouraged. Cheaper postage rates also contributed to an increase in the popularity of sending Valentine’s Day greetings.

Americans probably began exchanging hand-made valentines in the early 1700s. In the 1840s, Esther A. Howland began selling the first mass-produced valentines in America. Howland, known as the “Mother of the Valentine,” made elaborate creations with real lace, ribbons and colorful pictures known as “scrap.” Today, according to the Greeting Card Association, an estimated 1 billion Valentine’s Day cards are sent each year, making Valentine’s Day the second largest card-sending holiday of the year. (An estimated 2.6 billion cards are sent for Christmas.) Women purchase approximately 85 percent of all valentines.

Now that we have that out of the way let continue to business and the psychology of leadership in today's world. I find that when I go into any organization large or small I have the same questions asked or I should say most of the time the same questions come up but one in particular.

HOW DO YOU GET PEOPLE TO DO WHAT YOU NEED THEM TO DO?

I have to tell you that my answer is always the same. "Treat people like adults and not children"  The other thing is that most companies treat people like if they were in the turn of the century and well that has hanged and one must not manage people anymore but manage their personalities and psyches. 

How many of you remember the old commercials that stated that the mind was a terrible thing to loose and then showed the egg on the frying pan and granted it was regarding drugs but in the real world in business how many time do we hire competent individuals who would be great leaders if we the owners or managers allow them to grow and become leaders.

We must allow staff to make suggestions and we must be open minded to the changes that come along with managing people.

You will encounter many different types of people during your management career.  If you are managing a group of around 20 or less, you really should be able to get a feel for each individual’s personality.  Even if you manage a group of 100, you should still be able to know the key players personalities.  It helps when you know what makes each one of them tick, especially when communicating one-on-one.  When dealing with different personalities, be tolerant of styles different from your own.  Always try to adapt to their personality to get your point across, or to get more out of them. 

You can’t use a cookie cutter approach with every employee.  In most cases, you will need to change your communication approach with each individual.  For example, you will not get your point across if you're too direct and data oriented with a touchy-feely kind of person.  In the same token, you would not want to be too touchy-feely with a no-nonsense type of person.  This is also important when delegating any projects to individuals or as small teams.  If a person or team is too analytical, there will be little creativity.  If a person or team is too sensitive, fewer decisions will be confidently made. 

Friendly cooperation will get you far more than unfriendly agitation in any market.
When you treat your competitors with the courtesy and respect you would like, most will respond in kind, and the result is a stable, productive, profitable industry. On the other hand, an industry or market that is composed of vicious, unethical competitors will soon destroy itself. When you are asked how your products and services compare with those of your competitors, speak respectfully and politely about your rivals, but use the question to shift the discussion to your company and your products. Acknowledge others’ good points, and then move on. If you complain too much about the competition, prospective customers may wonder what they are missing and refuse to buy until they have compared your products and services with those of others. 

If you wish “acquaintanceship,” be rich. If you wish friends, be a friend.

There is nothing like money to make you attractive and appealing to others. But, of course, the kind of people who are attracted to you only because of what you can do for them may be acquaintances, not friends. You may have many acquaintances if you become wealthy, but whatever your station in life may be, you will never have true friends unless you are a friend to others. Be very selective in your choice of friends. Choose to associate with positive people who like you for the person you are, who encourage you to be yourself and to be the best you can be. 

I always find Napoleon Hill to be one of my most inspirational mentors. He says what needs to be said in a brash kind of way but also in a way to understand the reality of life and not just in theory.

"Always be prepared for the nay sayers!" What they say will not and does not define who you are!!

Good morning everyone and as always thank you for the continued support on my journey in changing the world one mind at a time by teaching perspective on the world and to learn to have a clear perspective on what really is as opposed to what we see or want to see. I am here to serve you and will always be "Your Solutions Provider"

I have coached many managers and top level executives and I always tell them one thing which is-"Always be prepared for the nay sayers!" What they say will not and does not define who you are!!"

Today I would really like for people to see the perspective on Incompetence. What does this difficult word mean? Well in reality it is not a difficult at all unless you are the type of individual who is in denial.

 

 

 Don’t look to the stars for the cause of your misfortunes: look to yourself to get better results.

 
There are many things you cannot control, but you can control the only things that really matter: your mind and your attitude. External forces have very little to do with success. Those who program themselves for success find a way to succeed even in the most difficult of circumstances. Solutions to most problems come from one source and one source alone: yourself. Living life to the fullest is a lot like shooting the rapids in a rubber raft. 

Once you’ve made the commitment, it’s difficult to change your mind, turn around, and paddle upstream to placid waters. But it’s the excitement and adventure that make it all worthwhile. If you never make the attempt, you may never know the depths of despair, but neither will you experience the exhilaration of success.

 

The true meaning of incompetence in a company or corporation:

Awful Communication

No clear direction thus reviving conflicting signals and refusing to accept reality are all signs of incompetent management.
 
How many of you have had someone ask you a question but has no idea what they are asking? Therefore the question will be answered accordingly. Then the answer they received was not adequate for them and so they become frustrated with you and think or rather believe that you were being supportive.

There is an old saying which I love and it goes like this: There is their truth and then your truth and then the real truth. The real truth is that the person will ask a question in a way that they themselves have no idea what they are asking but expect an answer that will make sense and yet it does not make sense to them why?

Well first of all the wrong question was asked and thus received an answer according to the question. You have to remember that before you ask a question you have to know what you are asking and ask the question in a way that is clear and specific if you expect an answer that will make sense and if you do not ask a question in that order ask your self these questions: Did I ask specifically for the right information and was I clear on the information I needed?

No Guidance

Incompetent managers are unable to provide consistent and realistic guidance. 

It is a tough world when your top management team are supposed to be able to guide you but they have no idea how to guide people themselves but because for whatever reason they were promoted because they are really really good at paperwork and know where to find the right forms. 

 

I can tell you and it is a proven fact that because you are really  really good at paperwork does not have anything to do with managing and guiding people and those that are really really good at crossing their T's and dotting every (I) does not make them a competent leader and there lies the confusion in today's business world. 

The biggest issue with this ongoing problem in many organizations is that a bad boss will and can hurt your upper movement  and perhaps damage your reputation simply because they are intimidated and could also damage your health but of course this will only happen if you do not realize what is happening but if you do and you handle each situation accordingly you will be fine.

 

Humiliate or reprimand an employee within a group or talk trash behind their backs. This is a clear and visible sign of a poor leadership.  This is a really nice article to the point.

Incompetent Leaders
By Chris Ortiz

 

Encourage hard workers not smart workers. I am not impressed with hard workers. A hard worker is usually defined by hours. Smart workers are the ones that I hire and embrace. Smart workers understand the concept of time management and multi-tasking. Poor leaders miss this connection. 

 

 Smart workers are methodical in their thinking and can generally be successful because of their abilities management projects and time. Hard workers may take twice as long to do the work. It is important to assign work accordingly to the skills and personalities.

Judge people on hours not performance. This is similar to above. Again, I am not impressed with overtime junkies. They have lost all perspective on a healthy family/balance. Bad managers will promote the employees that work the most hours  and know where to find the right forms and are excellent at filling them out and not look at the smart ones who work less………meaning have better time management. How sad is that?

 How about those that act differently in front of their leaders? This is an indication of low self-confidence. They have doubts about their own ability to lead and they will act like little children when authority is present. A confident person acts the same around everyone. Remember, have respect for them, but also have self-respect.