Mothers Day By Luciano Santini

Today is a very special day for all th emothers around the world. Todays is mothers day here in the United States of America. A little history on this special day.

I want to dedicate this day to my mother whom I miss so much and love so much. My beautiful mother passed away from cancer almost four years ago and seems like it was just yesterday.

The sky opened up to recieve a beautiful person into heaven where I know she is sitting looking down on me each every day and smiling down.

My wife the mother of my three boys. She is wonderful to me and to my boys. I know how difficult we can all be sometimes and yet she hangs in there for us.

 " A Mothers Smile Is What Tells A Child No Matter What You Do I Will Always Love You My Child"--Luciano Santini

She was a very special lady and the world lost someone who believed in her children always.  

 In the United States, Mother's Day started nearly 150 years ago, when Anna Jarvis, an Appalachian homemaker, organized a day to raise awareness of poor health conditions in her community, a cause she believed would be best advocated by mothers. She called it "Mother's Work Day." 

Fifteen years later, Julia Ward Howe, a Boston poet, pacifist, suffragist, and author of the lyrics to the "Battle Hymn of the Republic," organized a day encouraging mothers to rally for peace, since she believed they bore the loss of human life more harshly than anyone else. 

In 1905 when Anna Jarvis died, her daughter, also named Anna, began a campaign to memorialize the life work of her mother. Legend has it that young Anna remembered a Sunday school lesson that her mother gave in which she said, "I hope and pray that someone, sometime, will found a memorial mother's day. There are many days for men, but none for mothers." 

Anna began to lobby prominent businessmen like John Wannamaker, and politicians including Presidents Taft and Roosevelt to support her campaign to create a special day to honor mothers. At one of the first services organized to celebrate Anna's mother in 1908, at her church in West Virginia, Anna handed out her mother's favorite flower, the white carnation. Five years later, the House of Representatives adopted a resolution calling for officials of the federal government to wear white carnations on Mother's Day. 

In 1914 Anna's hard work paid off when Woodrow Wilson signed a bill recognizing Mother's Day as a national holiday. 

At first, people observed Mother's Day by attending church, writing letters to their mothers, and eventually, by sending cards, presents, and flowers. With the increasing gift-giving activity associated with Mother's Day, Anna Jarvis became enraged. She believed that the day's sentiment was being sacrificed at the expense of greed and profit. 

In 1923 she filed a lawsuit to stop a Mother's Day festival, and was even arrested for disturbing the peace at a convention selling carnations for a war mother's group. Before her death in 1948, Jarvis is said to have confessed that she regretted ever starting the mother's day tradition. 

Despite Jarvis's misgivings, Mother's Day has flourished in the United States. In fact, the second Sunday of May has become the most popular day of the year to dine out, and telephone lines record their highest traffic, as sons and daughters everywhere take advantage of this day to honor and to express appreciation of their mothers 

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Luciano (The Key) Santini on CRITICISM

CRITICISM

Now how often do find ourselves dealing with someone criticizing you as an individual at one point in your life and yet you ignore the fact and you just keep it internally. Check out my show and you will find some techniques to fight back within yourself.

We all know someone or ourselves have been criticized or have criticized  someone in our lives and then we regretted it later because we know what we did; We always know what we do we just try to justify either by ignoring the fact or blaming someone or something else.

Many times we need to stop before we open our big mouths and think of the hurt that words can cause. As a life coach I can teach techniques to look at words for what they are just words however not everyone can shrug their shoulders and move forward. Certain people really take words to heart and allow themselves to be hurt deeply.

Examples of this is our children. They look up to us as parents and when we say words they stick in their minds like glue and sometimes if we take the time to watch you will see how they react to your words.

Gregg Walker, Dept. of Speech Communication, Oregon State University

Criticism may occur within conflict situations or can foster conflict.  Criticism, or the generation of "evaluative judgments," is often painful or difficult to "give" or "receive."  If handled appropriately by both the person criticized and the person being criticized, critical feedback can promote constructive growth in individuals and relationships.

Constructive Criticism - Some Assumptions
1.  Criticism arises out of interaction, rather than simply action.  Evaluation is important to improvement, but criticism should follow a "two way street."  Criticism is more valid when all parties involved interact both as the "critic" and the "criticized."

2.  Those who criticize need to value and invite criticism.  Criticism can be promoted if the critic first invites criticism of his or her own behavior.  By inviting criticism, a person can create a situation in which her or his criticism of another is perceived as appropriate.

3.  The "Critic" and "Criticized" guidelines t

hat follow are pertinent to all parties involved in "criticism" discussion. 

Constructive Criticism - Guidelines f

or the Critic
1.  Understand why you are offering criticism.  Feel confident that doing so is appropriate to the situation and constructive for the parties involved.  Criticism voiced out of self-interest or competition may be destructive.

2.  Engage in perspective taking or role reversal.  As you develop a criticism strategy or response, try to understand the perspective of the person being criticized.

3.  Offer criticism of the person's behavior, not on her or his "person."  Refer to what a person does, not her or his "traits," or "character." 

4.  Even though criticism implies evaluation, emphasize description.  Before offering any judgment, describe behavior you see or have experienced. 

5.  Focus your criticism on a particular situation rather than general or abstract behavior.  "Index" and "date" your criticism, much like a "journalist": deal with who, what, where, and when.

6.  Direct your criticism to the present ("here and now") rather than the past ("there and then"). 

7.  Emphasize in your criticism your perceptions and feelings.  Indicate what you think and feel about the other's behavior that you have described.  Use "I" statements. 

8.  Invite a collaborative discussion of consequences rather than offering advice.  Form a partnership to deal with problems.  Do not compete with the other party; compete with the other person against the problem. 

9.  Keep judgments tentative.  Maintain an "open door" of dialogue rather than presenting your "analysis" or "explanation" of another's behavior.

10. Present criticism in ways that allow the other party to make decisions.  Do not force criticism on the other.  Encourage the other to experience "ownership."  People are more likely to comply with solutions that they generate. 

11. Avoid critical overload.  Give the other an amount of critical feedback that she or he can handle or understand at that time.

12. Focus criticism on behaviors that the other person can change. 

13. Include in your critical feedback a positive "outlet."  Reinforce positive actions and invite the possibility of change.

14. Invite the other to present criticism of you. 

Constructive Criticism - Guildelines for the Criticized
1.  Recognize the value of constructive criticism.  Such criticism can improve relationships and productivity. 

2.  Engage in perspective taking or role reversal.  Try to understand the perspective of the person offering criticism. 

3.  Acknowledge criticism that focuses on your behavior.  Attempt to transform criticism that seems directed at your "person" to specific behavioral issues. 

4.  Listen actively.  Even though criticism may hurt, seek to understand accurately the criticism being presented.
    a.  Paraphrase what the other is saying.

    b.  Ask questions to increase understanding.
     c.  Check out nonverbal displays (check your perceptions). 

5.  Work hard to avoid becoming defensive.  Resist any tendency to want to dismiss criticism or retaliate. 

6.  Welcome criticism; use the criticism appropriate to improve. 

7.  Maintain your interpersonal power and authority to make your own decisions.  Criticism, when directed at one's "person," may weaken one's resolve.  Focus the other's criticism on your actions.  Seek ownership of solutions. 

8.  Seek constructive changes to the behavior that prompted the criticism. 

9.  Insist on valid criticism.  Valid criticism: (a) addresses behaviors, (b) is timely, and (c) is specific. 

10.  Communicate clearly how you feel and think about the criticism and receiving criticism.  Use "I" messages.

Luciano Santini on Parenting Motivational Speaker/Business Coach

 Being a Life Coach can be tough sometimes but what you can learn is an extreme fulfillment. It becomes more fulfilling when you actual come up with some great solutions to peoples issues.

I did a parenting seminar yesterday for the local school district and no it was not free for the school but free for the parents. It was something that the school puts together to assist parents in understanding their children relationships between parent and child.  

It was a humbling to see these parents struggle with their children and the issues they had. As I stated during the seminar I am not a perfect parent nor do I ever say or state that I am.

Here are some tips to great parenting not perfect great parenting;

Find your own skill in parenting your children.

There are many ways and styles but your will be the best 

one because you know your children better then anyone else.

Speak to them and listen to them. 

 

 People will never be the perfect parent so do not even try to be. Yes we can try to be the best at raising our children the best we can and well that is we can do. 

Children need models they can loo up to that is a given our job is to make sure that we as parents are the best models we can be and hold ourselves responsible to make sure to do the best we can.

It breaks my heart to see and hear the stories some of these parents shared with me and the rest of the attendees.

Good morning my friends and it has been a little while since last I posted  on my blog. 

I love to write my ideas and suggestions regarding both real life changes and techniques on how to change a persons life and how to assist the business person change and better their business.

However it seems to me that when someone offers a seminar or a workshop for free people place little value on it. Sometime I believe that I should start charging for everything that I do. 

It is a choice that I make and chooses when and where I charge for my services. I have found that sometimes people believe that when a speaker or a coach offers something for free there seems to always be a catch to make money somehow and believe me I know many business coaches who really just want to help people get off the ground with their businesses.

Please understand that yes there are those that when something they give away there is a hidden charge and  or they will try to push something on to you to make some money they do exist!! I know.

However when someone offers a seminar for free take it go to it it just might change your life.

"Life Is What You Make Of It And The Choices You Make Will Create Your Future'--Luciano Santini

I love this How would live your life? Think about this question because there comes a time when we do sit about our live and start to wonder. One thing is to be absent minded to the world around you and another is to be oblivious in our daily lives.

The Battle of Midway – June 4-7, 1942

They had no right to win. Yet they did, and in doing so they changed the course of a war... even against the greatest of odds, there is something in the human spirit – a magic blend of skill, faith, and valor – that lifts man from certain defeat to incredible victory.

– Walter Lord, Author

 

Luciano (The Key) Santini

Live each day as if it were your last, and you’ll develop a keen respect for opportunity. Napoleon Hill

If you had only one more day on this earth, how much sharper your senses would be. The beauty of nature, the simple pleasures of life, would be indescribably wonderful, and every moment would present an opportunity to spend quality time with your family and strengthen relationships with friends, acquaintances, and business associates. 

Every thought would be laser-sharp in that highly focused state. Well, today is the last day on earth for today’s opportunities. Don’t let them pass you by. 

Each day that passes by  I think about the future of our children and well I have to tell you that there are way to many children raising children. I find that parents are not parenting when they should be parenting and kids are not listening the way they should listen and well it just makes this world chaotic for both parents and children.

As a life coach I can guarantee you techniques on how to look at your life and find ways to get you on the right path. I am not a miracle worker either but I have experience life in ways that will make the hair on your back stand up OOOOOHHHH believe me. 

"Life Is What You Make Of It And The Choices You Make Will Create Your Future'--Luciano Santini

I walk around businesses and I find that business owners tend to live a busy life which they think is a good thing. It is a good thing when you are making money and have a balanced life with both business and family;But guess what!! most do not have a balanced life they have a busy life trying to survive the competition that surrounds them.

 No more customers spending money and coming in through those beautiful glass doors they call the entrance. Running out of ideas to create more business for their customers. The staff is leaving because you can pay them or because their hours have been cut or simply because they have run out of funds and then they close the doors.

BENEFITS FOR HIRING A BUSINESS COACH

Rosamund Zander, a successful psychologist consultant and her husband Benjamin Zander the conductor of the Boston Philharmonic Orchestra capture perfectly the opportunities available to each of us in their best-selling book, The Art of Possibility. Here is a passage from the book. 

"...Many of the circumstances that seem to block us in our daily lives may only appear to do so based on a framework of assumptions we carry with us. Draw a different frame around the same set of circumstances and new pathways come into view. Find the right framework and extraordinary accomplishment becomes an everyday experience."

The first thing that both in business and in life should do is the following in order to find purpose;

 I believe that everyone would be better off if they stood in front of a crowd and admitted their biggest mistakes and embarrassments. Then with that out of the way, they could get on with being completely comfortable with themselves and confident around others.

After all, things couldn't get any worse (read: more embarrassing) than that, and they'd quickly realize that the "worst" never turns out as bad as they fear. It's one way to turn defeat into victory.
Craig Ballantyne Copyright © 2012 Early to Rise, LLC. 

I believe that this is sound advice to all of us.

Are you where you want to be in your life?

Hello my friends and today is Monday and well it is time to get the kids ready and myself for some real adventures. Let us start with some questions about your business and life. 

The first question is this: Are you where you want to be in your life? The next question is; Is your business where it needs to be and if not what needs to happen to get it there?

You see as a life coach I ask these simple questions that seem pretty difficult to answer. I have asked these questions to my clients and well they go blank. 

 Are you where you want to be in your life?

This becomes a difficult question to answer if you have been living life day by day with no real plan to follow.

Perhaps I do not know personally, but I know you. You are a person who is interested in creating your life.

 You have always felt in the back of your head that you can be much more than what you are now. And yes you can!!!!. You are looking for ways to change your life, your internal relationships, and others. And you will find those ways. 

You as an individual are capable of doing so much more in this life perhaps even change the world for the better,but guess what you will never ever know if you do not realize that you can and sometimes we need someone to teach us how or guide in the wright direction.

Is your business where it needs to be and if not what needs to happen to get it there?

Here is something from Napoleon Hill 

Anyone can quit when the going is hard, but a thoroughbred never quits until he wins.

The going is always hard on the road to greatness. If success were easy, everyone would achieve it. NFL All-Pro lineman Brian Holloway recalled that when he was playing for the New England Patriots and the Los Angeles Raiders, there wasn’t a single day when he didn’t feel like giving up because the road was too tough and the sacrifices were too great. He didn’t quit, of course; he was willing to pay the price because he was determined to succeed. True thoroughbreds never quit.

 Competition only spurs them, and obstacles merely reinforce their determination to succeed. If you have not yet achieved greatness in your life, it is because you have been willing to settle for less. You may not cross the finish line first every time you try, but if you stay in the race, you will eventually prevail.  

  

Luciano Santini Top Motivational Speaker/Business Coach and Life Coach

Quick promotions are not always the most enduring.

Most people who fail after receiving a promotion do so because they fail to rise to the challenges the new position offers. It is perfectly normal to feel a twinge of insecurity when you assume a new position — after all, you’ve never had this job before — but seldom do promotions come before you are ready for them. Now, it is a fact that the day you are promoted, you are not yet competent in that position. 

You were promoted into the position because of your potential, not because you were expected to perform flawlessly from the outset. Work to prove that your boss’s faith in you was justified. Make becoming as proficient as possible in your new job — in the shortest possible time — your number one priority.

I love this poem I wrote a while back because it talks about how much time we really waste in our daily lives. I find that sometimes we get stuck in our routines that we loose track of time within our own minds.

I find that business owners have it the worst because they tend to focus to much on their business and not on themselves and they loose much more then just time. They loose themselves in time and thus worse yet sometime loose their families.

As a life coach I feel that when a business owner begins to loose him/herself in time they need to stop and take some time away from the business whatever it may be and ask for assistance form a Business coach. There is no shame in asking for assistance. Sometime we need someone to teach us new techniques or strategies on how we market our business or how we train our staff or perhaps just simply taking a new perspective on life.

Benefits of a business coach:

A few years ago, just a handful of small businesses used business coaching as a means to augment their business. Today, statistics reveal that almost 58% of the medium or small sized businesses in the US are seeking the benefits of business coaching.

 Businesses are using coaching because it is a cost effective way to achieve results. It helps to develop personnel skills and performance. Individuals who receive business coaching can expect to find guidance concerning the problems that they face. Business coaching offers new insights into daily business activities and helps improve methods, systems and procedures.

Many companies that have undertaken business coaching have reported an increase in productivity and quality of work. When people are coached, team relationships improve and these enhanced relationships lead to an increase in productivity and quality. 

Many businesses judge productivity by how hard an individual employee's works, but this method overlooks the importance of synergy and quality of work. Very often, employees tend to overlook quality in their haste to get work done and this forces others to rework what has already been done.

The secret to increased productivity and quality lies in allowing the employees to make a connection between their personal needs and those of the organization. Satisfied employees work harder and smarter and are a boon to the company. 

Coaching programs not only help the employees to survive but also help them attain their peak performance as a team.

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