Good morning or afternoon in some Places around the world. here we are again regarding some issues that are important to me and to many others around the world. Today I would like to talk about people who are not working and people that when you ask them if they need assistance with either their resume or or other skills that they may be in need they will say no.
I ask them OK why not and their usual answer is well you are not telling us anything new and I have been doing that all ready so thanks.I say it is not whether you have been doing that or not it is about looking at what you have been doing from a different angle or perspective.
What do I see under all that talking: I see frustration and I understand it; I see older angry people because they were laid off after 15 or more years with their respective companies and I understand that as well.
How do you deal with these type of people such as engineers and high profile people that once were the top of the line employees and then suddenly were dropped because of outsourcing or sales of companies.
I can tell you myself as far as education is concerned I hear it all day long from very smart people and very distinguished people that held very high paying positions and sometimes very high profiled positions as well.
The understanding that needs to come to mind for most of these people is that they need a reality check and the need to understand that they do not know everything that is the first key to finding that new position the understanding that you do not know everything.
I found this article which to me is very interesting and hope that it helps some of my readers.
The Frustration Signal
Each of us has a set of tried and true behaviors. Whether we are
faced with a stressful situation or just going about our everyday
activities, we tend to use behaviors that we’ve used before. We even
use favorite self-talk behaviors: some
folks habitually tell themselves that they are Mr. or Ms. Wonderful,
while others seem to tell themselves that they are unworthy of even
basic courtesy.
In Reality Therapy, we use the term “frustration signal” for that
feeling we get when there’s a gap between what we want and what we have.
When our habitual behaviours aren’t working effectively for us, we
become aware of this frustration signal. This awareness can be a very
powerful motivator to change. What do we do then?
I believe that when a person get to or arrives ta this point he/she need to have a reality check of themselves and realize that a change must happen or otherwise will slowly deteriorate. I believe that most people want to live a happy life but loose their way when they cannot get what they want and become uneasy in their minds and start to loose focus on what they need to do to be able to reach their goals again.
Criticism WOW that is a big one and trust me I have been on the raw end of it: What do I do well I just listen and figure out where the need is and try to find the solution and usually I am able to find it.
People often try to be helpful, though it might not seem that way
when you’re on the receiving end of their helpfulness. For example,
think about how you would feel if you were told, “You seem awfully
cranky. You should get more sleep.” Or how about this helpful
information: “You look tired. You really should be taking vitamins .”
Everybody has an opinion, eh? The folks pointing out the error of
your ways may have the best of intentions, but it feels a lot like
criticism when it’s you that’s being “helped.”
Critical comments may be most destructive when they are aimed at
those closest and dearest to us. In some relationships, it’s as if
intimacy is taken as a license to criticize.
This is why it is so important to listen to people and their needs and their issues first before one makes comments.
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Cover Letter Tips
www.CareerConfidential.com Peggy Mckee
Get into the Right Mindset
What is the Purpose of a Cover Letter?
It’s not just a structure you need to follow,
like
an “ABC” formula
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it’s a mindset you need to get into, and I’m going to help you get into that mindset and s how you how to put everything together . When we’re done today, you’re going to be able to write a great cover letter, comfortably and confidently
Sell, Sell, Sell Yourself to a Hiring Manager, Recruiter or
Human Resources
Let’s start off by setting up the playing field here. Overall, your job search is a sales process. You, the
candidate, are the product you’re trying to sell to the hiring manager. You want him to buy your product, which means to hire you.
In this analogy, the resume is your marketing brochure that
tells the buyer about the product. So what’s the cover letter? It’s your “commercial” or your initial ad that’s going to get the attention of the buyer and make him want to read the marketing
brochure.
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