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Good morning to all who read and follow me on this blog. Writing has always been one of my passions and it something that I can do forever. My friends writing is one of those passions that once you find your subject or subjects you enjoy it will come natural One of my passions is writing about how the mind works in different situations or scenarios.

Let us talk about emotional intelligence and what to do and not to do when involved in a situation you wish you were never involved with.Let us start with what it is;

Emotional intelligence (EI) is the ability to monitor one's own and other people's emotions, to discriminate between different emotions and label them appropriately, and to use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior.^[1] There are three models of EI. The ability model, developed by Peter Salovey and John Mayer, focuses on the individual's ability to process emotional information and use it to navigate the social environment.^[2] The trait model as developed by Konstantin Vasily Petrides, "encompasses behavioral dispositions and self perceived abilities and is measured through self report".^[3] The final model, the mixed model is a combination of both ability and trait EI. It defines EI as an array of skills and characteristics that drive leadership performance, as proposed by Daniel Goleman.^[4]

The model introduced by Daniel Goleman^[34] focuses on EI as a wide array of competencies and skills that drive leadership performance. Goleman's model outlines five main EI constructs (for more details see "What Makes A Leader" by Daniel Goleman, best of Harvard Business Review 1998):

1. Self-awareness – the ability to know one's emotions, strengths, weaknesses, drives, values and goals and recognize their impact on others while using gut feelings to guide decisions.What does this mean to a leader? Well I can tell you that as a leader you need to be in touch with your emotions and be able to reach and out to staff and be able to connect via emotional feelings. 
2. Self-regulation – involves controlling or redirecting one's disruptive emotions and impulses and adapting to changing circumstances. To a leader this is very important because if you have no idea how to regulate your emotions you will find yourself in a pickle which usually will end up pretty bad or simply a total disconnect from reality.
3. Social skill – managing relationships to move people in the desired direction; To a leader this is very important but you have to be able to make sure that you are connecting with staff because if you are not you will simply loose control  and you will not be able to guide or give instruction because what happens is that they will start to give you direction and this is usually not good at all.
4. Empathy - considering other people's feelings especially when making decision; To a leader this is probably on  e of the most if not the most important aspect of emotional intelligence. A leader has to have empathy towards others and if you do not not then you are simply leading by position power which will last for a short time before the leader will start having issues due to micro managing.
5. Motivation - being driven to achieve for the sake of achievement. To a leader this is also a big part of the game of emotional intelligence because a leader will have to have the skill to make sure that their staff or peers will either buy into a goal or follow the leader.

 
I have also found that sometimes bullying will exist when there is a power of position management style. This usually happens when The leader who is really not a leader but was given that position because of time in position and so was promoted with no real people skills or low self esteem which would lead to poor leadership.This will also cause conflict among staff members because you have someone who should be leading when in fact they are hindering everyone from moving forward.

Most failures could have been converted into successes if someone had held on another minute or made more effort.
When you have the potential for success within you, adversity and temporary defeat only help you prepare to reach great heights of success. Without adversity, you would never develop the qualities of reliability, loyalty, humility, and perseverance that are so essential to enduring success. Many people have escaped the jaws of defeat and achieved great victories because they would not allow themselves to fail. When your escape routes are all closed, you will be surprised how quickly you will find the path to success.