Hello to all my followers and believers. I say it truthfully if you want to reach a goal in life be true to who you are and never ever quit!!! Why is it that people believe that they can manipulate others? I believe that manipulation happens all the time but it happens when others allow it to happen. When people get caught doing such things they call it diplomacy. I love the word Diplomacy is a way of lying to get what you want.
Diplomacy is a way of playing people as pawns in a game of life and to me it is a really bad way to build relationships because they are built on lies yes pretty sad when people in power positions uses diplomacy not in a good way. It also means a way as to attain one's own ends and yet avoid any unpleasantness or opposition.
I always find that by understanding people just being able to understand people you learn so much from their facial expressions when speaking with them without ever asking any questions to probe into their life. I believe the human mind is the greatest tool ever and we all have one we just do no t use as it should be used. The mind is a powerful tool and will always be a mystery.
A perplexity of the mind is why some people who seem to have all the advantages — the right
connections, and experience — never seem to reach their potential and have lived an unhappy life within themselves that it makes them sick with envy of others. They have a position of power while others who have had to struggle for everything they have reached
incredible heights of success. It hinges on determination and being true to yourself. If you have
the will to succeed, you will somehow find a way, regardless of the
obstacles you encounter whether they are people who are quote unquote diplomatic and use their power of position for manipulation.
No organization has enough
experience, education, native ability, and knowledge to ensure a future, without the cooperation of their
people.
I find it remarkable in these times of forward technology how businesses believe that because they own it or have the money they can move forward without the help of people, I just find it amazing.I find it hurtful how when you have people who can move your company or department forward and businesses do not allow then to shine and instead hold them back because of personal issues.
These people will eventually leave or do just enough to keep their jobs safe. These type of people know when they are being pushed down and the truth is these people do not allow others to bring them down.
I have lead a few study groups where politicians have used these type of tactics on each other and the one who wins was the one that did not allow the other to bring him down.
Let us move on to FEAR and what is fear?
A very unpleasant or disturbing feeling caused by the presence or imminence of danger;
Some examples are:
- Fear … a little like the fear of a lover who realizes that he is falling out of love —May Sarton
- Fear … came and went like the throb of a nerve in an open tooth —James Warner Bellah
- Fear … clutching at his heart … as if tigers were tearing him —Willa Cather
- Fear … compressed me like a vise —Aharon Appelfeld
- Fear fell [on crowd] like the shadow of a cloud —John Greenleaf Whittier
- Fear … gnaws like pain —Dame Edith Sitwell
- Fearing them as much … as a nervous child with memory filled with ghost-stories fears a dark room —W. H. Hudson
- Fear is like a cloak which old men huddle about their love, as if to keep it warm —William Wordsworth
- Fear … lay on me like a slab of stone —Norman Mailer
- (In my body is a) fear like metal —Marilyn Hacker
- The fear of failure … blew like a Siberian wind on our unprotected backs —John Le Carré
There many kinds of fears and there are many ways of conquering fear as well. If you know yourself and your mind and you can manage your emotions my friends you can beat all your fears.
It’s All About Control
Copyright 2015 Eric Barker. All Rights Reserved
When we feel in control, we’re not afraid. When we have a level of comfort with something, it’s not scary.
Anything that gives you a feeling of control over your situation helps you keep your cool.
Without a feeling of control, when stress gets high we literally can’t think straight.
Amy Arnsten studies the effects of limbic system arousal on prefrontal cortex functioning. She summarized the importance of a sense of control for the brain during an interview filmed at her lab at Yale. “The loss of prefrontal function only occurs when we feel out of control. It’s the prefrontal cortex itself that is determining if we are in control or not. Even if we have the illusion that we are in control, our cognitive functions are preserved.” This perception of being in control is a major driver of behavior.
This is why fear often seems so random and irrational. And why you’re often afraid of all the wrong things.
“Face your fears.” It’s a cliche. It’s vague and unhelpful. But it’s accurate.
You need to spend time with your fears. Get closer to them. Intensify them.
Only then will you stop being afraid.
Take a second. Think about your worst fear. Maybe it’s speaking in public.
So you’re speaking in public and everyone is utterly bored by you and not paying attention.
Hold on that for a second. It stings, but stay with me. Now make your fear worse.
You’re speaking in public and you wet yourself. Everyone laughs. It’s mortifying. But spend a second there.
Now make it even worse.
The whole thing is recorded and gets 3 million views on YouTube.
Stay with it. No, you’re not going to die.
Now relax. Just follow your breathing — in and out — for a few seconds.
You’re on your way to conquering your fear.
Sound overly simple? Nope. This is exactly what’s recommended by Harvard Medical School professor, Ronald Siegel.
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