WHAT DOES IT TAKE FOR A PERSON TO BE CALLED A GOOD LEADER NOT GREAT JUST GOOD?

WHAT DOES IT TAKE FOR A PERSON TO BE CALLED A GOOD LEADER NOT GREAT JUST GOOD?

I was asked this question in Los Angeles CA this past week during a leadership seminar which I was asked to be part of which I jumped at the opportunity because of course anytime you get an opportunity to make an impression regarding your skills and perspective it is important to share such things.

I have read many many books and have done many many hours of research on this subject and I have to tell you that it is a continuous search for the best explanation. Here are some I have read in the past;

Inspiration comes form my beautiful kids who inspire me to live every day-Luciano The Key Santini

 One thing that I believe regarding leadership is the following;

 To me definitions by their nature are pragmatic. Like a laundry list of attributes... Rather than what makes a leader worth following. My humble opinion is a leader worth following must have conviction. They must believe in the cause, program, objective... whatever. 

 They must have enough self confidence which is sometimes confused by those who do not know nor understand the difference with arrogance to surround themselves with good people and the humility to consider alternative opinions. No "yes" men. They must be able to articulate, communicate, and be personable. OK,  so add in integrity, honesty, responsibility, tenacity and vision. 

Revett Eldred- said something at a seminar that I really loved and holds so much truth regarding leadership:

  I define a leader as someone who takes people to places they wouldn't have gone on their own. In other words, someone who can somehow convince others to become followers.

I think a book called The art of war will help define a leader for you.
A leader is someone who can be admired, who listens to people, who encourages people but can steer that encouragement in the correct direction.
A leader must have belief in what they are doing and en still this belief into everyone who follows.
A leader must be transparent and let everyone it leads know the aims of the leadership and know where the organization is going.
A leader must lead my example and not by words.
A leader can have many different characteristics and a different mixture depending on what organization they are leading and where they are leading it.

A leader (in no order of importance):

1) sets the standard and accepts nothing less from himself or his subordinates.
2) must have conviction and believe in what he is doing.
3) sets his subordinates up for success.
4) is willing to admit his mistakes.
5) is a person of integrity, character and honor.
6) willing to make the hard decision.
7) can see the broad picture.
8) effectively and efficiently uses his subordinates to get the job done in the best way possible.
9) will never ask his subordinates to do something that he will not do himself.
10) knows his people, like family.

 

I have to say that these are just a few that I have read by different authors who I might have at one time or another sat with them during my research for school. I also believe that a real leader is one that does the right thing and not the thing to please someone above them. I never said nor has it ever been said in the last 2000 years that being a leader is easy ever! Being a leader is a difficult thing to do Many will make mistakes and that is OK as long as you learn from that mistake and correct it the next time..

 

By Bill Murphy Jr.

Executive editor, TheMid.com, and founder, ProGhostwriters.com 

 

 A real leader is thrilled when team members achieve great things. A mere manager is threatened. 

 

In the grand scheme of things, a mere manager doesn't have much. He or she hasn't aspired to enough in life, and has taken on a bureaucratic role. Yet that's all he or she has, and as a result, the fear of losing it can be overwhelming. Thus, when a team member outgrows her role, a manager worries first about being outshone.

A true leader, on the other hand, takes his or her team members' accomplishments as a point of pride, and recognizes that the mark of a great leader isn't creating followers--but instead developing other leaders.

A truly great leader on the other hand, could hardly care about reports , or whatever the equivalent is in his or her workplace (and probably has to work to hide his or her contempt for such bureaucratic goofiness). What matters most to him or her--it is what truly matters most their people.

 

All Learning Has A Start and A Finish And Emotions Will Always Be Present-Luciano The Key Santini

Hello and good day to all who read my blogs and writing all over the internet. I have to say that none of this would have ever been possible if not for all the great comments that inspire me to write for you every weekend. Life has a way of planning out each and every day for each one of us. I have written regarding (EI) or emotional intelligence  so what exactly is Ei well it is being aware first and foremost of who you are before you can even begin to understand someone else. I love the following quote by one of the greatest philosophers that ever lived; 

"All learning has an emotional base."
-- Plato

 Great right but do we have a clear understanding of what this means. In business my friends if you do not have a clear understanding of your business.clients and staff there is no way that you will be able to manage staff or run a business and for sure not communicate with clients. EI is the ability to be able to control, perceive and more important than all of that the ability to evaluate your own emotions and those around you.

Emotional intelligence involves our ability to understand, express, and control our emotions.  Image: Cultura/Liam Norris / Getty Images

When you begin to perceive others emotions you have to be able to read a persons non verbals signs or body language which can get sticky.

Having the ability to Understanding Emotions:

  The emotions that we perceive can have many ways of seeing what they mean. If someone is expressing angry emotions, the observer must interpret the cause of their anger and what it might mean. For example, if your boss is acting angry, it might mean that he/she is dissatisfied with your work; or it could be because he got a speeding ticket on his way to work that morning or that he's/she's been fighting with his wife. or her husband. 

Or the worst case scenario that they are in a leadership role but has no idea in relationships with people or may have a difficult time trying to understand people's emotions

If you must meddle in human relationships, try to be a peacemaker. You will find that you don’t have much competition. "Napoleon Hill"

When faced with a conflict between others, most of us are more inclined to walk away from the situation than to become involved. If we do allow ourselves to become a participant, it is usually by adopting the position of one at the expense of the other. Of course, such behavior does little to resolve the dispute and may in fact exacerbate the problem. But when you make a genuine attempt to help resolve the situation, you should not be surprised if you’re the only one. 

 

We are all complex individuals with feelings and emotions we often don’t fully understand. Sometimes the mere involvement of a disinterested party is enough to help resolve the dispute. Make sure, though, if you are the one in the middle that you don’t allow yourself to get into a position where you must choose between the desires of one person over the other. Work toward a compromise that best suits everyone’s interests. 

 

Another one which plays a huge part in business is conflict resolution. What is conflict resolution? This seems to be a big question almost everywhere I go.

 

Conflict resolution is a way for two or more parties to find a peaceful solution to a disagreement among them. The disagreement may be personal, financial, political, or emotional. When a dispute arises, often the best course of action is negotiation to resolve the disagreement. Here are a few ways to see conflict.

 

Wrong Way: An inability to compromise or see the other person’s.

side.

Correct Way: The ability to seek compromise and avoid punishing.

 

Wrong Way: An inability to recognize and respond to the things that matter to the other person.

Correct Way: The capacity to recognize and respond to the things that matter to the other person.

 

These are just two ways to see conflict and to see the issue within yourself or the inabilities and the to see or find a way to learn the abilities needed to accomplish resolution.

 

    

Leadership Do The Staus Quo or Do The Right Thing That is The Question !!! Luciano the Key Santini

Hello everyone and thank you for your continued support on my journey to a better  world by simply reading my blog posts. I do many one one  meetings with individuals who believe they have been put in positions to fail and the biggest question they ask is why. My answer is many. I believe that if you are a leader and you believe you are a leader you need to figure out on your own if you are a real leader or simply a wannabe  individual who thinks is a leader.

Before I start this conversation let me make on thing very clear. If you are a leader the you must have a very pristine and clear understanding of what leadership is:

People or most people do understand but fail miserably to keep in their minds that our personal fulfillment is closely combined

with how we help others more so then how we help ourselves. In other words sometimes we need to break the rules to make a right but most so called leaders will follow the process then to do the right thing and that is the number one fact most so called leaders fail miserably.

People are good people or at least that is what I believe everyone to be until proven otherwise. If it turns to be otherwise then I simply try to help them. What happen is that sometimes their ethical beliefs are so off that they believe it to be true and they are so wrong.

Here is what some people who are in positions of leadership but should not be in those positions will do which gives them away if you of course know what to look for.

These so called leaders will care more about a process then their people. The real sad part of this is that they need to understand that without the people who actually do the work they have nothing and when someone places a process above people well simply put!! You have failed your people. 

This but one thing to look for. You see when you fail people that have worked hard for you and then because of a process or status quo you fail them then of course people will know why you are not a leader and the truth will spread like wildfire.

The so called leaders will make promises to other to keep  and avoid the real problem and avoid any type of conflict to keep them selves from any confrontation because they are afraid to face the truth. Leadership isn’t about your how well you speak it is about what you do for others and the actions you take. Leadership might begin with a vision, but it’s delivering the vision that will ultimately determine your success as a leader.

 Sometime we believe that because we can talk the politics in a world other do not believe in or involve themselves with will make you a leader it does not; it simply shows how much a follower you are and not a leader. I believe you must be a follower to learn how to lead that is a requirement and there is nothing wrong in learning the way to become a leader but if you are at the stage of a follower you should understand that you are not a leader.

How about when you try to get results doing things the wrong way; If the only way you can solve issues is through manipulation or lying to people you’re not a leader. The ends don’t justify the means. If you abuse your influence through your position and do not treat employees like people with respect then you are not a leader. One of the biggest mistakes people make is to confuse manipulation with leadership, you may come out on top a few times but at the end you will loose many good people and you will not be trusted and no one will believe in you anymore thus for not a leader. Manipulation over ethics never ends well.

I believe that rules are put in place with in every organization but sometimes the rules are wrong and if you are a leader you need to be able to recognize them and be able to break them. Leadership must be understood it is simply knowing the need for change and being able to deliver execution

Fear, Manipulation,Comfort Zones And The Mind--Luciano The Key Santini

Hello and how are we doing this weekend? This past week has been a great week because I have been able to learn so much more regarding my intellect and the reason I say this is because I have found that if you but make up your mind to learn anything you can learn it pretty quickly. I have known this for a very long time but a\sometimes though we might know something for a long time we will forget and then suddenly you have an AHA moment and though not new you feel great and this past week was one of those weeks.

I always tell people that we fall into a comfort zone and when we do that we become stifled if you will and we get stuck on a routine which can be bad for you and your mind.People who know me always ask me what I am reading or writing about because they always see me with a book at my favorite coffee shop or with a writing pad.

Let us talk a bit about fear and how much damage fear can do to an individual and to the mind. Fear is an indispensable part in the human mind. We can try to dispense it but that would be dangerous depending on the form or situation. Did you know that even a fearless man in the most modest city street would be dead before the day is over if the phrase be taken literally. Fear can also be a powerful motivator for the human mind again depending on the situation. 

When we think about fear throughout all industries some grow from fear of penury ( Extreme poverty scarcity or destruction) Many discoveries in the medical field for the fear of diseases. There is also all the fear abnormalities such as hysteria,phobias and there are many out there in the world. There is also obsessive anxieties and believe me when i tell you that all of the above can tear a persons life to pieces, I have seen it so many times while being an executive coach for CEOS and management teams.

There is a few facts that we as human beings need to understand about fear. The one big fact is that human seek stimulus in hazardous situations and strange as that sounds it is in us. Believe it or not know that danger is an individuals love because sometimes that is where we find motivation deep inside us Think about this when we as individuals are not challenged we go out and seek that challenge that will make fell needed whether in our jobs in our daily routines and when we do not then we should realize that  we have become  conformed and when get to this point we need to look for things to stimulate the mind within us to keep us feeling alive.

One of my favorite things to do with people I meet is this. I watch to see what they are cynical about and I get to find out what makes them tick! and what makes them move or not move in life. We all have the power to turn a negative into a positive if but choose to change the mind. So many times when we try to help someone else we fail and the reason for this is because most of the time the solutions we come up with has no relation to the situation or issue.

If this happens there are so many elements to all of this such as knowing and understanding the issue. The real revelation here can be that something so simple as giving direction to someone could be an endemic obstacle to either a business or an individual.

Your real courage shows best in the hour of adversity.

Some setbacks are so severe that to give in to them means losing the whole ball game. When he assumed command of the Korean War, Gen. Matthew Ridgeway found his forces pushed far to the south, hard pressed by the invaders. Only a determined decision to hold the lines allowed the American forces to keep from being swept into the sea and to eventually regain all the territory they had lost. When a defeat strikes, you may not have the time to withdraw and contemplate your mistakes without risking further setbacks. Don’t succumb to paralysis.

 

 It is important to know at that moment what it is you truly desire and to act to preserve your resources and your hope. If you crumble utterly, you will take a blow to your self-esteem that will be hard to repair. Instead, stick to your principles, and you will know, at the very least, that you have protected the most important thing you have. Your successes in life will far outnumber your failures.

Have you ever felt manipulated in the workplace common now be honest!! We all have at one point or another, here are some tips to see them coming your way;

 

A skilled workplace manipulator is usually an expert at smiling. Through artful, indirect and devious methods, he/she influences and controls others. Like a clever politician, a manipulative workplace bully keeps his/her desires hidden. They will always make you feel good but take credit for something they did not do behind your back or closed doors.

Pretending to pursue the greater good, he/she adopts the mantra of “company first” with a fervency that inspires admiration and respect, and most people accept his/her claims of selfless pursuit of noble causes.

But underneath his/her self-righteous image lies the essence of a manipulator: someone who shrewdly and deviously attempts to control how you feel, think and behave.

Be aware my friends but learn to see it coming and do not be afraid.